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Annie Selke’s Live-and-Learn Guide to a Stress-Free Holiday Season

“There was a time,” Annie remembers, “when I would host 25-plus people and felt like everything had to be perfect. I had to use the car like a cooler because there was no room in the fridge, and by Christmas morning I’d end up feeling completely fried.” 

Since then, she’s been reinventing the holiday based on what’s important to her, and these are a few other things she’s learned along the way in pursuit of a better, brighter, and totally stress-free holiday season:

“My favorite Thanksgiving was all women —my daughter, friends, and their daughters— three generations of mothers and daughters. We didn’t plan it that way, but even then we recognized that it would probably never happen again our Lilith Faire Thanksgiving. It was so relaxed. Recognizing that every holiday is different helps me stay in the moment.”

One of the fun things about spending the holidays with friends is that you get exposed to their traditions. 

“The big challenge with a holiday meal is oven space. You have to keep all the sides warm and figure out what’s going in when. I don’t have double ovens, but I spent $39 on a countertop oven and it’s genius on holidays. It lives in the cellar the rest of the year, but it heats up quickly and you can use it to cook anything. I could cook a turkey in there. It totally eliminates the need for double ovens. As for the onion goggles, I use mine all the time. No more tears!”

Annie loves to set a beautiful table, so she allows herself plenty of time to do that – and she get lots of inspiration on walks with the dogs. Mother Nature is the best designer – read all her tips for foraged centerpieces here.

Annie also lays out all her platters and serving pieces in advance, and each one is labeled with a sticky note as to what it’s for. That way, people can help with set-up and serving.

I care about the food and enjoy the alchemy of it all: reading recipes, thinking about which dishes will go well with others,” explains Annie. “I like to ruminate on the menu, and I’ll ask all my food and garden friends about what they have planned.” Her favorite dish is butternut squash tossed with cranberries, panko, garlic, and thyme. Click here for the recipe.

One year Annie watched Julia Child use a cleaver to de-bone a turkey before filling it with stuffing. “She made it look so easy! So I bought a cleaver and tried myself – on Thanksgiving.” This was before YouTube tutorials, and it was unspeakably messy. She even ended up with turkey on the ceiling! So, needless to say, it’s probably better to do a dry run.

This year everyone’s getting yoga mats. Some years I give everyone robes. If you find the right thing and it’s nice, why not simplify the process?” Annie explains.

“Yes, I want to make really yummy food, but sometimes the Béarnaise fails. The important thing, for me, is sitting down, holding hands, and talking about what we’re thankful for. That’s what truly matters,” says Annie.

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Jean from Georgia November 21, 2020 at 6:27 pm

I will tell you what lights me up. Every time I open your site there a bench covered in a rug and I wish I could afford just that.


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